Recognizing our worthiness is, I believe, an endless process. This challenge comes up in every area of our lives. As I’ve been struggling to step up and believe in myself and my business, I’ve noticed some interesting correlations between business and boyfriends (or husbands, significant others, partners, or whatever other incarnation of the romantic relationship you have). Take a look:

If you stick with your handsome, commitment-phobic boyfriend when you know you want to get married…

then you probably have trouble emotionally investing in your business, setting long-term goals, making future plans or envisioning genuine success.

If you have a boyfriend who interrupts you a lot and disregards your ideas…

…then you probably don’t believe in your own ideas, either, and do not allow them to mature and come to fruition. Perhaps you don’t bring them into manifestation, at all.

If you have a hard time expressing and upholding your boundaries with your boyfriend…

…then you might be struggling with upholding your business policies and/or saying no to commitments or clients that aren’t a good match for you. If you have employees, this might extend even further in the form of allowing behavior that is not in line with your expectations and needs.

If you feel like you have to do endless favors for your boyfriend in order to hold his interest…

…then you might be overly accommodating with customers. Are you giving excessive free gifts or services? Are you offering exchanges or refunds without asking for the return of the product in question? Are you offering free shipping that destroys your profit margin?

If you are always looking for the latest look to stoke your boyfriend’s fire and distinguish yourself from all the other hot young ladies…

…then you probably waste way too much time trying to craft your image instead of just being the best you and the best business you can be.

If you need your boyfriend’s approval in order to feel good about yourself…

…then you probably place far too much value on what others think of you – how many likes, hits, retweets and orders you get – rather than being secure in the recognition of your worthiness.

If you feel that you have to have a relationship – or a relationship that “looks” a certain way – in order to be considered successful…

…then you probably have a very limited definition of what success looks like for an entrepreneur, and a limited ability to think outside the box.

If you don’t feel good enough to be in a relationship…

…then you likely under-price your products and services, and are filled with doubt about their value.

If you don’t value yourself, commit to your own success and love yourself unconditionally, you’re likely to falter both in love and in business.

Have you ever experienced any of these situations?

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